How do you combat this eternal struggle, the constant battle between your desire to write productively and be with your children? The obvious answer is daycare. Some of us have that, some of us do not. I for one, do not. My littlest is 4 months old, and I have strong views about leaving him with anyone.
Just for fun, let's run through a few scenarios that may or may not help you with your current child attending dilemma:
- Leave them with your husband/boyfriend/SO - Ok, if this is an option for you, take it by all means. This is the path of least resistance as far as writing, and if you know he/she/whomever is going to be home at the end of the day, you will look forward to that small piece of heaven/time and it will get you through. This is not an option for me, as my husband works evenings/travels/ and has an erratic schedule. So good for you, not so good for me.
- Crayons - There is a reason that Crayola is still profitable. Thousands of desperate mothers slap some paper and crayons on the table with the wishful thinking that perhaps they (your children) will color for a period of time. Crayola has not planned for crayon fights, markers on walls and doorways, and those children who would rather peel off the paper than color on the page. If it works, go with it. If not, on to another idea.
- Video games - My house is a haven for XBox (husbands), Wii (kids and husbands), Nintendo DS (kids, often stolen by husband), PS2 (bought for husband's birthday one year) and PSP (rarely used, desired by husband then thrown in a drawer. Do you see a trend here?) It's a rainy, wet day in Vancouver. Typical weather for this time of year. What to do after your school snack and homework? Find a video game and leave mama in the corner for 1/2 hour. With this buffet of options, you would think that's an easy choice? Not so! Much arguing ensues and my 1/2 hour has gone to breaking up the fight. When they are all happily playing, baby has woke up and I'm back to peek a boo.
- Begging - Now I don't condone begging because it makes your children respect you less, but I have been known to say "Please, please Mommy has to finish this. Can I give you a snack and a book for 10 minutes?" Then, I take my computer and go sit in the bathroom. No, not on the toilet. Get your mind out of the gutter people.